We live in a world where criticizing people and focusing on negative attributes seems to be the social norm.
我們生活在一個這樣的世界里：人們恣意批評他人，專注于消極情緒，而這些似乎成為了社會規范。
It’s an unfortunate aspect of life and many people well into adulthood still struggle with their own self confidence. It’s also unfortunate that these same people may be missing out in life because they don’t believe in themselves, or they don’t believe that they deserve the good things in life. This is simply not true.
這是生活中不幸的一面，許多人就算在成年后仍也舊在為自信而奮斗，這些人可能在生活中迷失了自己，因為他們不相信自己，或者他們不相信他們值得擁有生活中美好的東西，這對他們來說也是不幸的。這就是不對的。
It all begins within yourself, and you have to want to change things for the better. If you can’t change your environment, you can at least change your own ways.
這一切都源于你自己，你必須要為變得更好而改變。如果你不能改變環境，你至少可以改變自己的方式。
1. Get good at something
有一技之長
Sometimes all it takes is a little talent. Taking up a hobby or refining a talent can do wonders for your confidence. If you feel brave enough, you can show other people your hard work. It never hurts to hear a little praise on occasion.
有時候所需要的僅是一點點天賦。培養一種愛好或發揮天賦，這對增強信心起著不可思議的作用。如果你能勇敢面對，你可以讓其他人看到你的勤奮工作。偶爾聽一聽贊揚也沒什么不好。
2. Keep a journal
寫日志
You are your own worst critic, but you don’t have to be. Recording your accomplishments or writing about things that make you happy can help you realize your own self worth. Life is worth living and you should remind yourself of that.
你是你自己最刻薄的批評家，但是你不需要這樣去做。記錄你的成就或寫一些能讓自己快樂的事情，這可以幫助實現你的自我價值。生活值得活下去，你應該提醒自己這一點。
3. Keep fit
保持健康
Exercising and eating healthy food can make you feel good about the choices you make for yourself. When you notice how good and healthy you look, you won’t have reason to try to hide behind baggy clothes.
鍛煉和吃健康的食物可以讓你為自己所做的選擇感覺良好。當你意識到你看起來是那么的良好和健康時，你將不會找理由試圖把自己藏到寬松的衣服里。
4. Take care of yourself
照顧好自己
Do something that you want to do. If nobody wants to see that cheesy movie with you, go by yourself and don’t get into the mindset that only losers go to the movies alone. Being independent and not having to constantly have companionship is a strength, not a weakness.
做你想做的事。如果沒有人愿意陪你看那種俗氣的電影，那就自己去吧，但是不要陷入只有失敗者才會獨自去看電影的心理模式。保持獨立而非成群結隊是一種優勢，而不是劣勢。
5. Turn into an optimist
做個樂觀主義者
It makes no sense remarking on the dark clouds while ignoring the rainbow. Seeking positive ideas and looking at the “bright side” can affect your mood for the better. Focusing on the good things in life can help you hold your head high, knowing that life is good, even when it seems bad.
忽視彩虹卻只把重點放在烏云上，這是完全沒有意義的。尋求積極的想法，看到“光明的一面”可以讓你的情緒變得更好。關注生活中美好的東西讓你能抬頭挺胸，即使當生活看起來糟糕，你也會明白它是美好的。
6. Spend some time alone…but not too much
花點時間獨處，但不要太多
Everyone should have some time to themselves every day. Reading a book or enjoying the outdoors are great for the soul. But too much alone time can get the brain to sit stagnant. Sometimes people get sick of themselves and end up thinking of things that end up depressing them. Have a healthy dose of “you” time, but make sure you leave the room to seek out the people who matter most.
每個人每天都應該在自己身上花點時間。閱讀一本書或享受戶外活動，對心靈來說是很好的方式。但是過多的獨處會讓大腦反應緩慢呆滯。有時人們會討厭自己，最終陷于令自己沮喪的事情中。對“自己” 的獨處時間要有一個合理的安排，保證在你走出房門后去尋找最重要的人。
7. Do good deeds
做好事
There’s nothing like helping other people to give you that warm, fuzzy feeling inside. You know you’ve done something good and that you made another person happy. Making a difference in someone’s life can make a difference in your own, for the better.
沒有什么比幫助別人能帶給你內心更溫暖、舒適的感覺了。你自己知道，你做過好事，你讓別人感到快樂。你讓別人的生活變得不同，這也會讓你自己的生活變得不同，也許會變得更好。
8. Set achievable goals
設立可完成的目標
Setting impossible goals only sets you up for failure. If, for example, you want to lose weight, small increments at a time may be a good option. You can easily lose five pounds. Lose those five pounds and you will feel a sense of accomplishment. Further challenge yourself to another small amount. The more goals you achieve, the more you will see how awesome you really are.
設立一個無法實現的目標只會將你引向失敗。比如說你想減肥，每次小幅度的增加可能是一個不錯的選擇。你可以很容易的減掉5磅。減掉了5磅體重，你會有成就感。進一步挑戰自己，再減掉一小部分體重。你實現的目標越多，你會意識到你是多么的了不起。
9. Who cares what other people think?
不用在意別人怎么想
It’s very difficult to turn off the thoughts of what others might be thinking. The only way you can shrug it off is if you resolve to just not care. Who cares? If someone thinks poorly of you, that’s their problem. That issue is on them, not you. Move on, stay fabulous.
不去理會他人可能怎么想是非常難做到的。唯一能屏蔽這些想法的是你決定不去理會。誰會在意?如果有人貶低了你，那是他們的問題。問題在他們身上，而不是你。保持前進，做到極致。
10. Learn to love yourself
學會愛自己
The person whose opinion matters the most is your own. If you don’t love yourself, try to find out why. Then try to find a solution to that reason. Can it be fixed? If not, can you find someone who can help, perhaps a psychologist, a friend, or a pastor? Make room in your heart for yourself. You’re the only “you”, you’ve got.
你自己的想法最重要。如果你不愛自己，試著找出原因。然后試著找到一個針對這個原因的解決方案。你自己可以解決嗎?如果不能，你能找到一個幫你忙的人嗎?也許是一位心理學家，一個朋友，或者是一位牧師。在你心里給自己騰出一些空間。你是唯一的“你”。